Love should illuminate your world like sparkling, dazzling stars, a profound and worthwhile sight.
Camron Williams has been like an older brother to me since we started college, and he’s been there for me ever since. Him and his girlfriend are super cute together and his answer embodies the enchanting, bright nature of what falling in love is like: “Well, for starters, I always have a default setting when interacting with people and adjust the settings accordingly. I get to know the person better and I look for key values and things that I myself find attractive or interesting. Some of these things can include goals, personal interests, relationships with family and others, or their heart posture. These are some of the things I look for, but the thing that lets me know if a girl is worth pursuing is an inner spark that I feel when interacting with said individual. A ‘zing’ if you will. The falling in love part is a continuous process. The growth between myself and another must be natural and not forced. When a bond (that eventually becomes a love) has grown strong enough, I feel as though something can really be pursued and the conversation for being partners can be finalized. All these factors go hand-in-hand when I’m deciding on whether or not I pursue a female, and furthermore, fall in love with one.”
Kinley Hartz, one of my best friends, discussed with me that she’s never been in love before, but has some ideas of where she can possibly pinpoint where that might happen. It starts with that initial attraction, wanting to spend so much time together, smiling when receiving their texts, not being able to stop thinking about them, and sharing everything about your day. “I feel like the point where I would fall in love with somebody is where I feel entirely committed to, and there’s an aspect of love that’s not just a feeling or an emotion, but an action, where you love another person tangibly, like by ministering to them in a way where you can serve their love languages.” When it comes to saying ‘yes’ to a relationship, that would have to be once the things above align, and “that person is a God fearing guy who loves others well.”
One of my favorite Taylor Swift songs is Sparks Fly, where she sings, “I see sparks fly whenever you smile.” I think that in order for love to flourish, the sparks between two people must dazzle like stars in the night. Most importantly, I think those sparks should fly throughout the mundanity of everyday life, like how a certain person’s smile is enough to brighten your day. It is through the small gestures and effort that they put in that makes their love dazzle.
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